Do you honestly think that your child is perfect? Of course they are to us, at times. In reality though we all know that our children are not perfect individuals and have their own flaws. As parents we must see and acknowledge these faults and not sweep them under the carpet, or put our heads in the sand ignoring them.
Apparently I have upset a couple of people by a comment I left on my youngest daughters blog. Why are they upset? I wrote the truth about their son and brother in the way he acts here in my home. It was a short comment but none the least they were hotter than a wasp with a bee in their nest. Truth hurts maybe? I do not know.
First I was going to post a comment direct towards them on her blog and then I thought no that it would be better to address it here as then I can explain it in more detail. Plus I thought if you want to be mad let me really piss you off fully.
As many of you know we were blessed with a new baby in the home. My first grandchild. My daughter and her adult male friend live here with the baby so I see first hand what goes on in the care and nurturing of the child. I try not to interfere as it is their job to take care of Jeremy and not mine. Yet when I see something that is totally not acceptable, I step up and make comments. Like when he leaves the infant on the couch, stacked on top of two throw pillows, going into the kitchen to eat or smoke. Who is in there with the baby? Nobody. Accident waiting to happen. You don't do that.
There are numerous things like that which go on. Or how about this one? The baby needed formula. Shay tells him, he says fine he will pay for it but she has to pay him back for it. Pay him back? That is his child why should she pay him back to feed his baby??? Or her borrowing money from me to get what the baby needs because he wants her to wait until he has money. Ah, the baby needs things now not later.
Does he ever say thank you to me for doing anything for them or the baby? No. He acts as though it should be done as he is a little tin god. Sitting here acting like he is much better than everyone here. The baby he acts as though it is not part of his job description to do anything. Oh excuse me. He has said that on the weekends he will partake in his care. Weekends??? WTF is that about?
When Shay had pink eye and had to go to the doctor. He opted to sleep and let us take her. You see if it is not directly pointed at him he does not want to do anything.
OK you are thinking they are a young couple and need to work this out. She is 20 and he is 36. Yea. A grown adult man that sits on his ass letting everyone around him do everything. Shay works online, helps clean and takes full care of the baby. Buying his things and hers when she can afford it. You all know that PPP is good money when they drop but you can not depend on it. She does have a better opportunity now and is making more money. When she does have money, he spends hers. Pisses me off.
Yes, he works. What does he do with his money? Who knows. He pays no rent here in my home. Does nothing to contribute to our household. He sits. He works. And sits some more. He is extremely ungrateful, inconsiderate and immature.
My daughter is no rose. When he tries in their relationship she turns a deaf ear. Nagging and nagging. There are times when she is very mature then there are other times she pisses me off with her immaturity in her actions. Can she improve? Yes as we all should improve throughout our lives.
The point of this post is to say this. If someone wrote something about my child. Instead of going off half cocked about that person, I would ask my child about it. If there was no grain of truth I would then be totally pissed at the person. You have something to say, you know my number as you call it, get the answering machine and hang up. Your son is not perfect nor is my daughter. Yet at least she has stepped up taking full charge of family matters, money and everything else while he sits there doing nothing at all. If you raised him this way, then you should hang your head in shame.
Don't talk crap about me behind my back. Whatever I have to say I will say to your face as I really do not care. The truth is the truth is the truth. Reminding you that you are not here in my home to see what is going on. At least I treat your son better than you treated my daughter when she was in California. Oh yea, I heard from your son and my daughter all the great things that you and your family did towards her.
Flea market trash comes to mind.
